Stages of A Relationship

Have you ever feel that our relationship goes through stages? I feel that its really goes through stages...

Sure there are plenty of other fish in the sea, but you're not anywhere near the sea. You're in the desert. Alone.

First, you have the honeymoon stage. Everything seems so perfect, almost too perfect. You always want to be with this person, calls and sms(short messaging system) every time which is almost every minute or maybe every seconds. You can't imagine yourself without him or her, although your time together has been spared.


Next, you go through the questioning and fighting stage. Is this person right for me after all? Is this going to work out? You start to fight about how he or she doesn't communicate with you as much as he or she used to. He or she doesn't try to "appeal" you anymore because he or she believes he or she already had you. This is really where couples make it or break it. Some people just can't stand that there isn't that firing spark anymore. Sure, you feel connected. Just not how it was in the very beginning of the relationship.

Next step is finding the perfect medium. If you overcame all the fights, the days where you'd barely talk. You eventually find a good in between in your relationship. He or she starts to offer to come see you more, but still make time for his or her friends. Just not as much friend time as it was before. The text and calls aren't constant anymore, yet they do exist again. Everything just seems right. You know him or her well, he or she becomes your best friend. You both experienced having your "own life" while still being with each other. You know you can depend on him or her, as he or she does as well with you.

This cycle repeats, often. So if you're upset thinking that the honeymoon stage will not stop to exist again, you're wrong. Relationships go through this so they can mature, so they are put to the test and whatever couple makes it out alive is really meant to be. If you don't get through this tests, then he or she isn't the one. Everyone was made for someone in this world, and I will always believe that. I don't necessarily think things always happen for a reason, but in all situations you have someone out there meant for you. It's all just a matter of finding them..

For those in a relationship, what stage are you in right now?