5 Reasons Ladies Should Never Ask Their Ex to 'Stay Friend'

Many of us have been experience this before, that bittersweet moment at the end of a relationship where you know it's over and there's basically nothing that can be done to save it. So, you mentally prepare yourself to part ways for good, to return to the single life. 

And then she says, "But we'll still be friends.", and some of that sudden separation anxiety goes away. You start thinking that in some way or another, you'll still be a significant part of each other's lives, only you won't really. In fact, they might be the most hollow words anyone can ever speak. 

I'm sure there are plenty of guys guilty of these words as well, but in my experience, it's always been the female side that does the grasping for some kind of friendship, and I'm here to tell you it has to stop. 

I will be fair. It's certainly a nice sentiment, the idea of keeping in touch and maintaining a different kind of relationship with a person you once loved. In some cases these kinds of friendships can even work, given the right amount of time and distance. However, right after a break-up is never the time to ask a guy to stay friends. Got it??

Here are the 5 reasons..

1. It stifles his very manhood. By not cutting him off, you're giving him an excuse to linger and not get back out on the playing field. If you were the one who wanted him gone in the first place, asking him to be friends defeats that purpose entirely.
2. It gives him false hope. Again, if it wasn't mutual, asking to stay friends is a surefire way of making him think he's still got a shot somewhere down the line. It gives him all the reason he needs to call, text, email, or whatever. Unless you're a glutton for punishment, I doubt you want a heartbroken guy trying to be your buddy 24/7. 
3. If he's stupid enough to actually agree to being friends, it makes both of you look weak.He looks weak because he didn't have the balls to say no to you, and you look weak because you were too scared to cut him off completely. It's also basically an admission that you still need him in some way. 
4. It's really just a delaying tactic. Once one or both of you finds a new significant other, are you really going to remain friends? Unless enough time has passed that you're both really over each other, probably not. In the end, you're not likely to remain friends anyway, so why put it off?
5. Just because it makes you feel like a good person doesn't mean you're a good person. It seems like the kind thing to do, doesn't it, to be kind to someone even after you've dealt them a severe emotional blow? Go ahead, pat yourself on the back for doing a good deed. In reality, all it does is prolong the break-up period for both of you.

So guys, here's my advice in this situation: cut yourself off completely. That means deleting numbers, emails, screen names, de-friending,  you name it. It'll hurt for a while, but not as much as playing party to a phony friendship. If you really not ready for a special relationships, so just be friends.

Have you ever been asked by an ex to 'stay friends'?

Kissing Language

Guys..look what i've got....but firstly, i would like to share about the facts of kissing...

Let we go through the FACTS...

• People with crooked teeth(its me?) usually kiss BETTER than people with straight teeth.
• When you chew gum before you kiss, it actually makes your breath SMELL WORSE than before because of your salivary glands.
• Mints work MUCH better
• Though there is the French Kiss, surveys around the world said that instead of the FRENCH, it is said that the ITALIANS kisses the best! Mamma mia bella signorina!
• The MEXICANS are the worst kisser ever
• Kissing is healthy. It makes your heart beat rates 13-18% FASTER than normal
• GUYS, It is much more ROMANTIC to kiss girls in a fancy restaurant or UNDER THE STARS than to kiss in your disgusting bedroom or in the movie theaters
• GIRLS, Just because a guy kisses you every 10 minutes doesn't mean he’s using you ...he's just a LITTLE HORNY ;) and there`s no problem with that!!!
• It has been PROVEN that when people with the SAME hair colour kiss, it is more ROMANTIC than that of a different hair colour. Don't ask, we don't know why either hehe…
• Your FIRST Kiss isn’t always your BEST Kiss
• If you can tie a KNOT in a CHERRY with your tongue, it doesn't mean you are a good kisser... it just means your TONGUE MUSCLE is strong
• ALL GIRLS are NOT WHORES, and ALL GUYS are NOT PLAYERS... EVERYONE gets a LITTLE HORNY sometimes.

Next, we go to the TIPS...

• Touch his/her face.
• Run our fingers through his/her hair.
• Kiss softly at first, then apply more pressure.
• Hold your kissing partner.

Now, we come to the kissing language...
[of coz, it's a language. If a kiss is the Language of Love, then we have a lot to talk about it...]

+ Kiss on the ear ------------------------ "I'm horny"
+ Kiss on the cheek -------------------- "We're friends"
+ Kiss on the hand ---------------------- "I adore you"
+ Kiss on the neck ---------------------- "We belong together"
+ Kiss on the shoulder ----------------- "I want you now"
+ Kiss on the lips ------------------------ "I love you" or "I want you"
+ Holding hands ------------------------- "We can learn to love each other"
+ A wink ------------------------------------ "Let's get it on"
+ Slap on the butt ------------------------ "That’s mine"
+ Playing with the ear ------------------- "I can't live without you"
+ Holding on tight ------------------------ "Don't let go"
+ Looking into each other's eyes --- "Let's get romantic"
+ Playing with hair on head ----------- "Tell me you love me"
+ Arms around the waist -------------- "I love you too much to let go"
+ Laughing while kissing -------------- "I am completely comfortable with you"

Last but not least: If you're kissing someone, close your eyes. Seriously, it's not nice to stare...

Stages of A Relationship

Have you ever feel that our relationship goes through stages? I feel that its really goes through stages...

Sure there are plenty of other fish in the sea, but you're not anywhere near the sea. You're in the desert. Alone.

First, you have the honeymoon stage. Everything seems so perfect, almost too perfect. You always want to be with this person, calls and sms(short messaging system) every time which is almost every minute or maybe every seconds. You can't imagine yourself without him or her, although your time together has been spared.


Next, you go through the questioning and fighting stage. Is this person right for me after all? Is this going to work out? You start to fight about how he or she doesn't communicate with you as much as he or she used to. He or she doesn't try to "appeal" you anymore because he or she believes he or she already had you. This is really where couples make it or break it. Some people just can't stand that there isn't that firing spark anymore. Sure, you feel connected. Just not how it was in the very beginning of the relationship.

Next step is finding the perfect medium. If you overcame all the fights, the days where you'd barely talk. You eventually find a good in between in your relationship. He or she starts to offer to come see you more, but still make time for his or her friends. Just not as much friend time as it was before. The text and calls aren't constant anymore, yet they do exist again. Everything just seems right. You know him or her well, he or she becomes your best friend. You both experienced having your "own life" while still being with each other. You know you can depend on him or her, as he or she does as well with you.

This cycle repeats, often. So if you're upset thinking that the honeymoon stage will not stop to exist again, you're wrong. Relationships go through this so they can mature, so they are put to the test and whatever couple makes it out alive is really meant to be. If you don't get through this tests, then he or she isn't the one. Everyone was made for someone in this world, and I will always believe that. I don't necessarily think things always happen for a reason, but in all situations you have someone out there meant for you. It's all just a matter of finding them..

For those in a relationship, what stage are you in right now?

What's in a name?

Today i felt nothing interestings to tell. So, I decided to write less words but put more pics for the first post of this February.

These are some of the most unusual town names around the globe.

The town called A, somewhere in Norway

The district of Boring, Oregon, USA

The town of Center Of The World, Ohio, USA

This is the town of Dildo in Newfoundland, Canada

Hehe...this is the small town of Condom in France

Hehe...Bastardo, in Italy...

The Town of Gays, Illinois, USA

Little town of Hell, Norway. So we can think like "Ooh.. i went to Hell and came back!"

County of Muff, Ireland

Welcome to Happy, Texas, USA

This is the small town of Nothing, Arizona, USA. One more interesting facts about Nothing is the town sign reads "THE STAUNCH CITIZENS OF NOTHING ARE FULL OF HOPE AND FAITH AND BELIEVE IN WORK ETHIC. THRU THE YEAR THESE DEDICATED PEOPLE HAD FAITH IN NOTHING, HOPE FOR NOTHING, WORKED FOR NOTHING FOR NOTHING."

Moron Air Base in Spain. Hahahaha...

A town called Silly in Belgium

Road sign to the town of Wedding, Germany

The arch of the town of Weed, California, USA

Zzyzx Road, California, USA. I wonder how to pronounce it? Is it Zye-ziks? Maybe, Zee-zye-iks?

This is the town of Wank, Germany. The sign means, Wank. Nesselwang market, turn at Ostallgäu

Good at Spelling Bee? Try this:

Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrmdrobwllllantysiliogogogoch, Wales.
A translation into English would yield "St Mary's church in the hollow of the white hazel near a rapid whirlpool and the church of St Tysilio near the red cave"

or this one, even longer...

Llanhyfryddawelllehynafolybarcudprindanfygythiadtrienusyrhafnauole, Wales.

(English: A quiet beautiful village, a historic place with rare kite under threat from wretched blades)

Bad Egg, Switzerland

The Nunhead station in London

An exit to No Name, Colorado, USA

Why, Arizona, USA

Santa Claus, Indiana, USA

The road name is Shades Of Death, New Jersey, USA

Huhuhu...basically the names sounds funny because the name of the town is in their own language and there is nothing funny. It just because its been traslated in english that made it sounds funny. Thats all~

Waste of Time

"It's Just Waste Of Time"

That's my friend's opinion on gaming and I won't be surprised if many other people think that way. Playing video games has always been a bad wrap from being an unhealthy addiction to a primary cause of violence. But through the seemly typical lifeless gamer glued affront of his plasma television, there's an exchange of knowledge from the game to the gamerzz. One cannot observe this phenomenon, but only experience it. I don't call myself as a pro gamer(maybe, that would be an insult to real gamerzz anyway) but I'm lucky enough to be brought up with humble gaming interests. For me here's are some reasons why gaming is more than just for entertainment or make time pass by

1. Gaming Improves Hand-Eye Coordination

hand-eye coordinations

I hope u guys understand what i means by the hand-eye coordinations, since its just a simple words and its hard for me to explain because i'm the one who felt it. If you don't know how I came up with that then please. Hold these buttons on your keyboard ALT and F4. Thank you for your understanding.

2. We're Better Prepared For The Apocalypse

zombie

Zombie apocalypse, alien apocalypse, natural apocalypse, or what so ever. Let's pick zombie apocalypse for the sake of simplicity to prove my point. What do you think when you hear the word apocalypse? Chaos? Car alarms going-off and explosions? People running and screaming around the streets? Yes, yes, and sometimes painfully yes. We see this too often in movies but it will become reality just like in the movie 2012. We cant deny those things will happen. That's why we have games apocalypse-simulator like Left4dead, which will prepare you for that horrifying day. On that day, when many people are going crazy and stupid, I will close my eyes for a minute and reflect on the experiences and life-saving tips I've learned through playing Left4dead. A med-kit and pain-killer pills, check. Good chemistry among the 4-person squad, check. Auto-shotgun and dual pistols, check. Ready to survive and kick ass, check. "It just waste a lot of time"? Your life will soon be wasted as food for the zombies if you not prepared. hahaha....

3. Gaming Provides Us 50% Of Our Daily Learning Intake

roller-coaster tycoon

I've tried this game after my bro promote it to me and the true story: I've learned the basic concept of economics through Rollercoaster Tycoon without even knowing the terms for it. The game put you in charge own rollercoaster theme park from setting ride prices to hiring staffs. I learned how everything works; how to achieve near optimal revenue, concept of supply and demand and good placement to effectively utilize assets. It's also true that "it's just a waste of time"?? friend is retarded in microeconomics. I wonder why. Maybe you guys should try Zoo Tycoon also, only the different is you just need to handle with those animals. But its really test your patience with those animal's behavior.

4. Emotional Intelligence

This doesn't only depend to gaming but gaming does involve a lot of emotional control. Online gaming can be stressful because its home to trolls(griefers, asshats, what so ever you want to call them) who feeds off of other player's anger. One moment your team is winning, but the next moment your team ultimately loses because a troll joined your team and decides to do something counterproductive. Sometimes trolls do get to some people who just want to game after a day of hard work. But it's a 24/7 fucking job to keep them from ruining your gaming experience. Props to people who can just walk away from trolls because it's harder than pushing hate back, but for people who unintentionally feed the troll are pure comedy material. hehe..

unemployment benefits

When you're looking for work, it's easy to forget that having a job isn't always all its cracked up to be. On Recessionwire, a formerly unemployed writer recently posted a list of all the things she misses about her breach from the workforce.

The list is meant to be sort of tongue and cheek, with some benefits more important than others:

1. Eating Healthy

Busy working people don't always make the time to go grocery shopping and cook their own meals, but this is easier to do when unemployed. Besides, the author said she benefited from fewer stress-induced cravings and trips to the office vending machine.

For me, I feel like being unemployed could have a positive or negative effect on your diet, depending on your personality and circumstances. Some unemployed people are probably more stressed than they were employed, thus craving unhealthy foods. Besides, fast food can be very affordable, which is appealing when your income is cut to zero..

2. Exercising

Having the chance to go to the gym is often another luxury of the unemployed. Besides, trying to save money on gas or even Subway passes encourages walking and biking wherever you go..

3. Naps

Who can argue with that? Everyone loves this..

4. Meeting up with old friends

Trying to pencil everyone in around a 40-hour work week can be very trying, but your calendar really opens up without a job to weigh you down. Easy for you to go hang out anytime you liked..

5. Browsing NSFW content online

It's always awkward when, whatever you're reading, you come across something NSFW (not safe for work) that you really hope nobody behind you saw. I would even add that it's nice not to feel nervous checking your email or Messenger chat every once in a while..

6. Exploring your options

When you're looking for a job, you not only have different career options to choose from, but different life options as well. You can go back to school, paint a masterpiece, brainstorm business ventures, and more..

Have you noticed any benefits to unemployment? so, what do you think of this list?

What Makes you Special?

"Walking the path of heaven, the man who will rule everything"

I believe we all wonder what makes us special. From the moment we are old enough to understand the concept of uniqueness, I think we all want to know what actually makes us stand out amongst all the rest of people. From there on, we want to ensure that we remain distinctive in one-way or another. For some people it means becoming the best in their field and will be remembered by next generations. For others, who do not focus on their own individuality so much as they try to fit the standard life but will still try to have some aspect of their life or personality which is truly theirs have.

I have learned that we can make ourselves special by what we do, how we live and the way in which we interact with the rest of people around us. We doesnt need to try very hard to be different because it comes naturally, however many will fight the uniqueness in order to fit in group, to belong or be accepted by others. It is very sad when some people have the specialities try to hide their special personalities so it will not be judged as out of their ordinary.

For those people who enjoy themselves, accepting who they are and whatever qualities and faults they might have which allow their own special personalities and skills to show how different we are from one another people. It is not that we cannot learn or do the same things as other people but we should not be missed along the way.

I hope it is the will to be who we are, the desire to find out all we can be and the strength to follow our dreams when the path is but a bubble of a thought at the back of our mind.

apa reti SETIA??

SETIA...
t0pik yang amat sinonim dlm perhubungan percintaan antara 2 insan...namun sblm lidah lbih petah berbicara, izinkan memberikan sedikit definisi mengenai cinta...cinta? kalau dah x tau menghargai cinta, lebih baik x yah bercinta..hahax...so, for this topic i wanna share 1 short story with u guys...

zaini(bukan nama sbnr)seorang lelaki yang sedang betul-betul kecewa sekarang ini kerana cinta, bayangkan, dirinya sanggup buat apa saja untuk memiliki hati seorang wanita, hinggakan sanggup lupakan kepentingan diri dan buang semua ego dirinya untuk cuba menyelamatkan hubungannya dan gadis tersebut, tapi at last ini balasan yang dia dapat…gadis itu meninggalkannya untuk lelaki lain yang lebih berharta(contohnya)…tapi tak mengapa, mungkin ini adalah ujian atau rahmat daripada tuhan bagi dirinya…

Kasih sayang dan percaya satu sama lain adalah satu perkara yang wajib ada dalam bercinta…percayalah kalau tak ada 2 perkara ni, janganlah bercinta…sebab akan mengundang kekecewaan akhirnya…dan yang paling penting ialah “SETIA” pada yang satu, jangan terlintas sedikit pun perasaan untuk tinggalkan seseorang itu atas sebab2 yang remeh temeh…dalam hubungan yang kurang mesra, saya yakin kesabaran itu adalah penting untuk menjadikan hubungan yang lebih mesra...

SO, for those yang sedang hangat bercinta…
Nasihat saya, setialah pada yang satu…kerana kecewa dalam bercinta tu adalah satu perkara yang benar-benar menyeksakan…janganlah bercinta andainya kita tak tahu makna setia terlebih dahulu, fikirkanlah perasaan orang yang ditinggalkan selepas kita bagi dia sepenuh harapan...

cerita ini hanya sekadar renungan buat teman2 yang tercinta, tiada kena-mengena dengan yang msih hdup atupn tlh meninggal dunia...peace n0 war...sorry, i do not own everythngs~